As I look back on that conversation...I still cringe, feeling riddled with helplessness and almost overwhelmed by the pain I felt coming from Mustafa. it still makes me so sad.
How would I tell him that? Without perhaps his misunderstanding? Could I express my inner sadness at watching what he is going through in a way that wouldn't come across as either schmaltzy or as naive? I didn't know. All I knew is that I wanted desperately to help Mustafa. But could I?
I sure as Hell hoped so. Maybe Marti and I could. But if it was to be left up to me, then so be it.
This one thing I did know. Something was terribly wrong, and he was covering it up. Or trying to, and I doubt that most people had a clue. Even those closest to him. But I could see it in his eyes. See the pain, the hurt, and the deep sadness...and it was breaking my heart.
I NEEDED him to feel he could open up to me. TELL me what he was feeling inside. TELL me just how bad his pain. Let me try to feel it with him. But what then? I had no answers at the moment. But I knew I had to try. I just had to. Because I was also afraid for him. Afraid that the pain inside him was becoming almost insurmountable. Almost overwhelming, and I know enough about human nature to know that that is not a good thing and rarely ends well.
"I CAN NOT LET THAT HAPPEN," I thought to myself . "I CAN'T," and I felt a tear beginning to form. "NOT NOW, doofus," I chided myself.
But first we had to deal with Marti, and the funeral, and all that. I hoped Mustafa would understand and knew he did. But I also knew I had to move and fairly quickly, before...
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First, what IS PTSD:
"Technically speaking, PTSD is a potentially debilitating anxiety disorder triggered by exposure to a traumatic experience such as an interpersonal event like physical or sexual assault, exposure to disaster or accidents, combat or witnessing a traumatic event.
There are three main clusters of symptoms. Firstly, those related to re-experiencing the event; secondly, those related to avoidance and arousal; and thirdly, the distress and impairment caused by the first two system clusters,"
& Mustafa had pretty much run the gamut in his professional experience.
TO BE CONTINUED:
THE EPILOGUE-Click Here
How would I tell him that? Without perhaps his misunderstanding? Could I express my inner sadness at watching what he is going through in a way that wouldn't come across as either schmaltzy or as naive? I didn't know. All I knew is that I wanted desperately to help Mustafa. But could I?
I sure as Hell hoped so. Maybe Marti and I could. But if it was to be left up to me, then so be it.
This one thing I did know. Something was terribly wrong, and he was covering it up. Or trying to, and I doubt that most people had a clue. Even those closest to him. But I could see it in his eyes. See the pain, the hurt, and the deep sadness...and it was breaking my heart.
I NEEDED him to feel he could open up to me. TELL me what he was feeling inside. TELL me just how bad his pain. Let me try to feel it with him. But what then? I had no answers at the moment. But I knew I had to try. I just had to. Because I was also afraid for him. Afraid that the pain inside him was becoming almost insurmountable. Almost overwhelming, and I know enough about human nature to know that that is not a good thing and rarely ends well.
"I CAN NOT LET THAT HAPPEN," I thought to myself . "I CAN'T," and I felt a tear beginning to form. "NOT NOW, doofus," I chided myself.
But first we had to deal with Marti, and the funeral, and all that. I hoped Mustafa would understand and knew he did. But I also knew I had to move and fairly quickly, before...
______________________________________
First, what IS PTSD:
"Technically speaking, PTSD is a potentially debilitating anxiety disorder triggered by exposure to a traumatic experience such as an interpersonal event like physical or sexual assault, exposure to disaster or accidents, combat or witnessing a traumatic event.
There are three main clusters of symptoms. Firstly, those related to re-experiencing the event; secondly, those related to avoidance and arousal; and thirdly, the distress and impairment caused by the first two system clusters,"
& Mustafa had pretty much run the gamut in his professional experience.
TO BE CONTINUED:
THE EPILOGUE-Click Here
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